Dear Toxic
I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly two years and when we first got
together I thought he was really good looking and loved his fit body. But
for the past six months, he’s not been interested in staying in shape and
has been piling on the pounds. I still love him, but I don’t fancy this
chubbier version and am not fussed about having sex. Should I broach the
subject or accept him for who he is? Name withheld
How dare you have a problem with your bloke’s new fuller figure! Only kidding.
Anyone who claims they’d fancy their partner no matter how many pounds they
piled on is either a liar, a saint or a feeder. So, for the sake of your
sanity and sex life, you have to reverse this weight gain, but – and this is
a crucial but – you have to do it without offending him. Which means
inspiring him into action without branding him “Wobblybellymcmoobspie”. How
do you do this? Simple. You “find” a couple’s deal at the local gym,
“discover” a dancing class nearby, or “challenge” a couple of friends to a
weekly badminton match. As he starts to get more physical, hopefully so will
your relationship.
Dear Toxic
I’ve started having sex with one of my friends two to three times a month.
The problem is that I think I’ve fallen for him. We get along really well as
mates, but I’m worried how a relationship would work, or even if he’d want
to be in one. Should I say something to him or just hope that things happen
“naturally”? Lauren, by email
I’ll start with the good news: lots of successful couples begin as friends
with benefits. Now for the bad news: none of them morph into boyfriend and
girlfriend “naturally”. To turn this into a relationship you’ll need to have
“the conversation”. Tell him you’ve fallen for him. He’ll either reveal the
feeling isn’t mutual, then you’ll know where you stand, so you can either
proceed as you are or return to Friendsville. Or he’ll reveal he hearts you
too, in which case – jackpot! – a FWB just became a BF, and two or three
times a month is now two or three times a night.
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