I split with my first love two years ago and haven’t felt the same about
anyone since. Recently, he got in touch saying he’s not over me, but when we
met I didn’t feel a spark. I’m scared – if it’s not him I want, why can’t I
connect with anyone else? Will I end up alone?
Gemma, by email
You have to look at the bigger picture. It has been two years since you met a
man you liked, and you have changed. But these aren’t reasons to mainline
Ben & Jerry’s in front of Bridget Jones, they’re reasons to celebrate.
Because when Mr Right does arrive, you’ll know why you like him. Stop
stressing about “connecting” with every man you meet and have some fun.
My husband took me away for a romantic break and I’ve since discovered he
went to a strip club when I was asleep. I only found out because I saw the
receipt while tidying. I love him but hate the lies and don’t want him going
to strip clubs. What should I do?
I have no idea why he’d do that, which means you have to find out. But don’t
rant or rave. Simply present him with the receipt and calmly ask: “What’s
going on?” Maybe he’ll reveal one of the strippers is his sister? Maybe
he’ll admit he has a drink problem and the strip club was the only place
selling booze? Or perhaps he’ll claim he was sexually frustrated due to you
falling asleep? I don’t know. All I know is that something is seriously
wrong and you need to discover what it is ASAP.
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